D– Denial E- Enrage A-Acknowledgement & Adjustment T-Torment H-Harmony After experiencing the tragic loss of a loved one, weeks of denial, envelopes our whole being. We launch a brew of extreme anger in our minds. I describe this anger as ‘launch’ because it mentally feels like a rocket launching. It starts off slowly and then being to take momentum …
Author archives: Nirasha Ramlugan
Death: The Final Edge- Stage 1: Denial
D– Denial E- Enrage A-Acknowledgement & Adjustment T-Torment H-Harmony Following on from my introduction blog on grief after the loss of someone special, the first stage of healing is actually Denial. Everything I write about is an accumulated expressions of feelings, thoughts and behaviours experience by my patients, friends or family after they underwent an emotional roller-coaster …
Death: The Final Edge
It’s been an extremely difficult few years in my family because the dark, forbidden shadow was caste on loved ones, who left us behind. So I have had my fair share of grieving and bereavement. I had to use my knowledge and expertise to re-programme my mind so that I could feel happy again. Yes, …
Being Mindful
I was teaching some 9 year olds a few relaxation techniques today. It was just amazing to see how a classroom full of excited, noisy, bubbly and effervescent children, react to a calm voice. As I told them to take a deep breath in and feel their lungs and abdomen expand with air, they gently closed their eyes. …
Cutting ties….
Yesterday, a new patient walked into my therapy room, sat across me and poured her heart out. After years and years of allowing others to control her….she was close to breaking point. This control was not just physical but mental attachments. She felt weighed down and her life felt like it stood still. I instantly …
Slipping back to Old Habits
We’ve all been there and done that!!! Haven’t we? When we realise that something isn’t right in our lives and living becomes a mundane act of our reality, many of us acknowledge that it is time to change. Reorganising and tweaking what we do can be daunting for some individuals, especially if they don’t know …
Goodbye Blues…
I haven’t blogged anything for the last 3 weeks. Whenever I took my Ipad to do some writing, it was a challenge for me to scribe my feelings and views. I had to take time out to contemplate on what was stopping me. Then it dawned on me how emotional I have been since the new year. It’s weird how your …
A New Year with a new outlook…
Happy new year to all my Blog & Facebook readers and patients. May 2016 be a year where you strive to realise that you are the most important person in your life and you start to romance yourself. -Begin with loving yourself by be gentle to yourself. Take time to BE. -Be kind to your …
The Healing Silence
Today I stood outside a beautiful cathedral in Lincoln. This colossal place of worship was built in 1088, commissioned by the great William the Conqueror. The intricate carvings and sculptures just overwhelmed my senses. I looked in awe….whilst patiently waiting in the queue to enter this sanctum of prayer. What caught my eye instantaneously were …
Celebrating vs complaining
When I look around there’s a world, my world, that I have so much to be grateful for. A few nights ago was one of those special moments my heart was filled with gratitude and appreciation. How clever is our brain to perceive personal experiences in our life and then change it into chemical …